Written by Netisha Alie
Faithful are the wounds of a friend, But the kisses of an enemy are deceitful. - Proverbs 27:6
Would you prefer a lie over the truth? If you got the truth, can you handle it?
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We all know that person that we can't stand. The one who isn't afraid to tell us that we are taking the wrong path or that we are wrong about something we'd much rather to be 'right' about. -That friend who will not 'sugar coat' anything just to 'safe guard' our feelings but will be straight up and give us the REAL DEAL. Most people do not like such persons around. They call them 'rude' and 'bold' , not like there's anything wrong with being bold, but hey you get the drift! Truth is we all know such person or come across them in our life.
So how does one respond to such an individual and what can we all learn from them? I can never forget the day I received a message from my 'girlie' stating; "Hey I need your take on something, because I can trust you to give me the honest truth and to be real..." Waw! Sure felt great to finally be genuinely respected. :) You see humans are wired in such a way that they believe they need to be 'nice/in agreement' all the time. -That the answer to all their needs and wants should be 'yes!' and the moment someone comes around with a difference of opinion or the hard cold truth, the 'defense antenna' shoots up and we are ready to battle. One must learn to accept in life any balanced individual must be able to accept truth or be prepared to be lied to and get hurt by the truth later. No one said the truth is always 'buttered bread' or your 'favourite cup of tea' but it is the 'TRUTH' and what you'd rather to hear in the first place.
Proverbs, both biblical and others, shed light on the truth versus lies and the consequences of lies.
"Faithful are the wounds of a friend, But the kisses of an enemy are deceitful." (Proverbs 27:6) Anyone who lies to you is 'an enemy blowing you deceitful kisses.' Look at it as the person does not value and respect you enough to just 'be real' and tell you the truth. A lie may save you a few tears today but bring you great sorrow tomorrow. No need to preach about this as everyone has been lied to at least once in their lives and can weigh out the consequences. Which one causes more damage? -The Truth or A lie? Think about it, then ask yourself which do you deserve, because everyone deserves the truth, no matter how 'hard' it can be at times. Why? Because as the Russian Proverb says; it is 'better to be slapped with the truth than kissed with a lie.' For life doesn't hit you with anything 'sugar coated' but rather, it comes at you very 'real' and 'raw.' Thus, best to put your feet in the ground and charge on to receive it.
So the next time you meet that 'rude' and 'bold' person, how about you give them a second look and put your 'little take offense feelings.' aside, toughen up and really see the genuine goodness in their honesty. Besides, in everything there is good, its just up to us to find it and you'll truly be glad you did!
Faithful are the wounds of a friend, But the kisses of an enemy are deceitful. - Proverbs 27:6
Would you prefer a lie over the truth? If you got the truth, can you handle it?
We all know that person that we can't stand. The one who isn't afraid to tell us that we are taking the wrong path or that we are wrong about something we'd much rather to be 'right' about. -That friend who will not 'sugar coat' anything just to 'safe guard' our feelings but will be straight up and give us the REAL DEAL. Most people do not like such persons around. They call them 'rude' and 'bold' , not like there's anything wrong with being bold, but hey you get the drift! Truth is we all know such person or come across them in our life.
So how does one respond to such an individual and what can we all learn from them? I can never forget the day I received a message from my 'girlie' stating; "Hey I need your take on something, because I can trust you to give me the honest truth and to be real..." Waw! Sure felt great to finally be genuinely respected. :) You see humans are wired in such a way that they believe they need to be 'nice/in agreement' all the time. -That the answer to all their needs and wants should be 'yes!' and the moment someone comes around with a difference of opinion or the hard cold truth, the 'defense antenna' shoots up and we are ready to battle. One must learn to accept in life any balanced individual must be able to accept truth or be prepared to be lied to and get hurt by the truth later. No one said the truth is always 'buttered bread' or your 'favourite cup of tea' but it is the 'TRUTH' and what you'd rather to hear in the first place.
Proverbs, both biblical and others, shed light on the truth versus lies and the consequences of lies.
"Faithful are the wounds of a friend, But the kisses of an enemy are deceitful." (Proverbs 27:6) Anyone who lies to you is 'an enemy blowing you deceitful kisses.' Look at it as the person does not value and respect you enough to just 'be real' and tell you the truth. A lie may save you a few tears today but bring you great sorrow tomorrow. No need to preach about this as everyone has been lied to at least once in their lives and can weigh out the consequences. Which one causes more damage? -The Truth or A lie? Think about it, then ask yourself which do you deserve, because everyone deserves the truth, no matter how 'hard' it can be at times. Why? Because as the Russian Proverb says; it is 'better to be slapped with the truth than kissed with a lie.' For life doesn't hit you with anything 'sugar coated' but rather, it comes at you very 'real' and 'raw.' Thus, best to put your feet in the ground and charge on to receive it.
So the next time you meet that 'rude' and 'bold' person, how about you give them a second look and put your 'little take offense feelings.' aside, toughen up and really see the genuine goodness in their honesty. Besides, in everything there is good, its just up to us to find it and you'll truly be glad you did!
